People across the Borough are invited to attend a public consultation meeting to review and discuss local community safety issues at the Drove People's Campus, Southampton Street, on Wednesday 28 January at 7.30pm.
The Community Safety Consultative meeting, organised by the Swindon Community Safety Partnership, will give local people the opportunity to find out what the Partnership has achieved over the past year, and what is planned for 2009.
Councillor Brian Ford, lead member for the Wiltshire Police Authority will present the Wiltshire Police budget for 2008/09 and plans for the next year. A panel, made up of Executive Board Members of the Partnership, will answer questions.
Domestic violence and abuse could be a consequence of the crunch
The number of victims of domestic violence seeking help tends to increase in the early part of the year and agencies fear that the situation will be worse in 2009 as the pressure of recession bears down on couples.
When people ask for help from agencies such as the Swindon Community Safety Partnership, they won’t be told what they should do. Lin Williams, Domestic Violence Coordinator said anyone seeking help will be asked what they want to happen. “Most people want the relationship but not the violence,” she said. “Each victim will want something different but most just want to be believed.”
She explained that many male perpetrators of violence appear to be charming and likeable to others, which can make it more difficult for their victim to be believed. One of the best ways for friends and family to help is simply to take victims seriously and not doubt their story.
And abuse is not just about physical assault, says Lin. “It can be emotional, with put downs or ridicule, or it can be financial, being kept short of money or having to account for every penny.”
Lin Williams’ check list of warning signs of an abusive relationship:
At the start of any relationship we tend to view the other person ‘through rose tinted glasses.’ It’s human nature to see the positive things and overlook the negative.
When a relationship becomes abusive it is sometimes possible to look back at early warning signs, which were not, for a variety of reasons, apparent or recognised early on.
Women who have experienced this suggest that some of the following may help you to decide whether your relationship is abusive or not:
Are you afraid of someone you live with? Y/N
Does it feel as if you tip-toe around in order to keep your partner (or other relation) in a good mood? Y/N
Does he or she decide who you may be friends with, how you should dress, what you should/should not spend money on or try to control other areas of your life or relationship? Y/N
Does he/she get jealous when there is no reason? Y/N
Does he/she physically harm you (or others) even if it’s just grabbing or pushing? Y/N
Do you ‘never know where you are’ as your partner’s mood changes all the time? Y/N
Have you ever made a change to your life e.g. no longer see friends/relatives, do things in secret, so as not to provoke your partner to anger? Y/N
Does your partner involve your children in arguments? For example does he/she use threats against the children as a way of controlling you? Y/N
If you have said ‘Yes’ to two or more of the above, then you might be in an abusive relationship and may find it useful to have more information about domestic violence and abuse from:
24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247
MALE (Advice line for men as victims): 0808 801 0327
RESPECT (for perpetrators of domestic violence/abuse): 0845 122 8609