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NEWS & VIEWS
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Making a Relationship work - Part two Linda gets zapped
at superstore
In the second of her occasional articles for The Link, Relate counsellor Julia Cole suggests ways of
tackling things when stresses and strains in a relationship start to get you down
Do you live to work, or work to about washing machines or the of tea and a cuddle - try to switch
live? Many people find that work baby's new tooth can seem very off work or home worries for a
demands eat into valuable family routine! while. Change your clothes, and
time, and can cause arguments However, the greatest problem perhaps see yourself as a different
when partners feel neglected. seems concerned with tiredness. person now you are home. If there
Sometimes, the people I see tell Many workers sink wearily into are important matters to be dis-
me that they feel big companies do their armchairat the end of the day, cussed, choose a time when you
not consider their need to be with oblivious to the needs of their part- will feel relaxed to talk. You could
their wives or husbands regularly. ner. There are some ways of help- even build in a regular 'sharing
More often, through talking, it ing to cope with this, and build up time' to your week. If you have
becomes clear that a person's self communication too. When arriv- children they will probably de-
esteem comes from work, especially ing home create a watershed for mand to be heard too, but will not
if they are successful. The life at yourselves. Make a pact with your understand special agreements! It
home can seem boring if work is partner not to talk about your day can help to pay them concentrated
exciting or challenging. Talking for 10 minutes. Instead, share a cup attention, rather than trying to do
ten things at once! Children often Shocking treatment for Linda
There have been reports of shop-
respond to this kind of uninter- pers at the West Swindon Centre
rupted time, and are more likely to
tA1 HANDIHIRE lv give you an opportunity to relax af- receiving electric shocks from trol-
terwards. leys, but a childminder from
TOOL& PLANT HIRE Many couples tell me that they Grange Park is zapped whenever
C p M4_` welcome the chance to re-evaluate she wheels her charges into ASDA
A SERVICE • Al RATES • Al EQUIPM NT
with a double buggy.
the emphasis of their work and
?
Linda Miller from Lineacre Close
/ Thç1 home lives in this way. The basis of is so fed up with the bolts of static
all these suggestions is, of course,
communication. Many partner- electricity she soaks up that she
refuses to visit her local superstore
j 40k wt ships muddle along on assump- and makes the trip into the town
• pff tions and guess work, but it doesn't centre.
have to be that way.
Next time I will look at coping "It all started after the Gateway
Unit 9, Marlborough Road Industrial Estate refit last year," said Linda. "There
Wootton Bassett. Tel: 854821. Now also at Caine. with moving, and the strain that was no problem when it was Carre-
EASY PARKING COLLECTION/DELIVERY SERVICE vrrn can put on relationships. four and changed to Gateway. I
Mon - Fri 7.30am - 5.30pm • Sat 7.30am - 12.30pm used to get the occasional shock
Locals are top following the refit, but since th-
ASDA take over it has been ter
caterers rible. It's not only the buggy, I ge.
TRANSFORM YOUR The managers of two local takea- shocks taking a carton of milk o
packet of biscuits off the shelves
ways recently won awards from
KITCHEN IN 1 DAY! the company they work for. You can see people handling thing
Alan Clark of the Trawlerman at
gingerly."
the West Swindon Centre was rated Linda doesn't know why sheget.
+ In one day we can replace your door & drawer Coach Caterers Manager of the Year the electric shock treatment, bu
fronts in made to measure solid timber veneer and Sandra Freeman of Pi.zzarama, knows lots of other residents who
or laminate Shaw Village Centre, was the Most are similarlyaffected. Andshecan'
+ Your Dream Kitchen for half the cost and without Improved Manager. get a reason out the store manage
the mess Alan, who lives in Toothill, has ment. She's written to the sto
+lf you need new worktops, sinktop or appliances, managed The Trawlerman since it manager without much joy. "I'v,
we will supply these too. opened nearly seven years ago. written to the manager on tw'
According to general manager Ian occasions but haven't had the cou
OR IF YOU PREFER West, Alan is the only manager in tesy of a reply."
the company who can peel pota-
ASDA store manager Les Lloy.
toes, cut fish, do the books, make said he had just returned fro
+We will completely re-design your whole kitchen
up the wages, serve a good cup of working at another store and wa
FREE OF CHARGE ,
tea in the back office, whilst frying not aware of a letter from M
+ Supply kitchens by and 'NOW'
for customers during a busy Miller. He said there had been n
within 7 to 10 days lunchtime. "Seriously though, his recent complaints about static fro
+ Give help and advice cheerful smile and quiet efficient trolleys, and it was the first he ha
to assist your DIY installation mannermakes theTrawlerman one heard of customers receivin
+Our own professional fitting service of the smoothest running busi- shocks from other sources.
available if required nesses anywhere." Linda replied, "My second lett:
He said that Pizzarama Shaw was was handed in at the informatio
U Callus NOW. Swindon one of the company's busiest pizza desk so there is no excuse for no
units. Sandra, who lives in Shaw,
seeing it. I know things have b-
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joined two years ago as assistant
expect disruption when such a b
manager. On taking over as man- difficult for ASDA and peop
JAAS ager increased turnover by 20% in change takes place. But as I've sa
the second year of operation. in my letters to them, I can't gi
Mr West added that with major them a chance to prove themselv
by'. competition in the area, Sandra if it's going to be such an unco
would have to pull out even more
fortable experience shopping the
stops to keep Pizzarama's as the I don't receive shocks at othersto
leader in West Swindon pizza sales. so I'll go there instead."